The Importance of Teaching Sexual Intimacy to Our Children

We must understand that sex was not designed just for pleasure nor for child bearing. The benefits of sexual intimacy between and HUSBAND AND WIFE are:

• Expression of love
• You get to know you partner in ways that aren't possible in any other fashion
• Gain patience and show how much you care about them
• Creates a special bond between the couple

There are several chemicals involved in the process of "love-making" that are important:

• Seratonin (the "feel good" chemical)--> You release the most during climax
• Dopamine (the "exciting" addicting feeling)--> Usually in drugs and is the reason why pornography is considered a drug as well
• Oxytocin (the "bonding" chemical)--> Connects two people together

Most children do not get this information from thier parents. In fact, they might not get it throughout the course of thier lives. It is very important that we teach our children not only the importance and morals that reside inside of a healthy marriage between a man and woman but also teach them the WHY of sex and HOW it all works. Things we discussed that we should teach our children and would be valuable to them between the ages of 8-12 (before they get involved in sexual behavior): 

• Teach our purpose as eternal families
• Teach how God might have created our spirits and that it is a sacred act
• Be sure to be private when getting dressed or showering: showing this respect for your body will teach children the need for respect of thier own
• Teach the difference between intimate and normal relationships

We learned many things that I wish to write down but don't have time to. We must consider learning the dynamics of sexual intimacy ourselves to give our children a great perspective on how it really is. One major thing we must always consider is that OUR BEHAVIOR IS CONSISTANT WITH WHAT WE ARE TEACHING OUR CHILDREN. We must practice what we preach. And we must be open and loving enough towards our children before that moment comes to teach them any one principle because they must feel like you can talk to them. I am firm believer in teaching our children and creating that bond of love with them enough to talk to them about whatever might be on their minds-- even sex. If we don't teach them, who will?