The first year of marriage: preparation and challenges

There are several things a couple have to accommodate in their first year of marriage:

·         Lifestyle- eating and sleeping

·         Schedules

·         Distribution of responsibilities

·         Budget- time and money

·         Mutual decision making

·         Physical intimacy

·         Social circles

·         Establishing family boundaries

According to research, those that were well on their way to divorce all had ten areas of significant incompatibility; those with successful marriages had ten areas of significant incompatibility. The difference between the couples making them successful or a failure was how willing they were and how well they ACOMODATED to their spouse. If we want successful marriages, we must care about what our spouse wants just as much as we care about what we want for ourselves. Another key of success in marriage would be to know that more challenges and adjustments= successful marriages. The people with successful marriages had to work really hard to get there. Each spouse should always point out the good in the other—not their weaknesses.  We must always remember that people always need help finding their strengths. That helps them succeed more.

I know these principles to be true. I have and am practicing them and I have seen a difference in my marriage. I know that anyone who does the same will have very similar results.