The Importance of Communication in Marriage

According to Lauer and Lauer, experts in Family Therapy, communication consists of 3 parts:

• Words- 14%
• Tone- 35%
• Non-verbal- 51%

This means that most of the communicating we do is non-verbal. 

The communicating process is also vital to understand so that we communicate our message efficiently and effectively:

My thoughts/feelings--> I Encode--> Transmit through Media--> They Decode--> Thier thoughts/feelings 

Then they reverse the process to make sure they understand correctly:

Thier thoughts/feelings--> They Encode--> Transmit through Media--> I Decode--> My thoughts/feelings 

As we understand this process of communication, we can prevent many problems from happening, such as misunderstandings that can lead to breakups or even divorce. 

I know that if we have conflicts in our marriage or family, we should learn this process of communication. We also need to remember that sarcasm can cause ridged boundaries between people, so it should be used scarcely. It can lead to false assumptions and cause tension as well.